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Do you ever do those "would-a, should-a, could-a's" to yourself? Part of releasing self-judgment is letting go of words (even if they are made up) like these ...and booting them out of your vocabulary all together!!! The cousin's to these aforementioned words are blame, shame, guilt, and let's throw in the word "mistake."
Blame is the opposite of learning to take responsibility. And, taking responsibility can simply mean learning to be able to respond.Response-able.And, once you learn that you can choose to respond from an optimistic viewpoint in life...you'll throw the word blame out into the old victim mindset junkyard once and for all!
Shame is a master tool in teaching and indoctrinating with fear. So many of us in this new generation of light workers have decided...that through forgiving ourselves and others, and teaching with love, rather than fear... that we have the power to no longer use the word "shame" again. End of story! We've found that there are much more effective ways to learn and/or teach our children. Want to join us? The rewards are great.
Guilt is something we "do" when we decide that we aren’t worthy of giving ourselves some credit for being human; don't give ourselves a break; don't practice compassion on ourselves; won't look at the "bigger picture" in life; and aren't willing to view life as a school of learning! Rather than "go there"...change it up ... and simply accept that everything does happen for a reason and we can learn something positive from every challenging situation in our life that has occured. Period. Refuse to "go there" anymore! Adios guilt.
And, if we are willing to step out of judging ourselves for a moment....and go searching for the gift of wisdom and knowlege that we can learn from each and every one of our experiences...we'd soon find out the there are no mistakes...only lessons! It's all good, got it?
I had planned to leave for California this past weekend. In fact, I was almost completely packed...when some money that I had been expecting didn't show up. Due to the fact that I've invested most of my money in growing the ever-expanding distribution of my book and on-line course, this did put me in a bit of a short-term cash flow problem. And, frankly, "they" snuck up on me ...that is, some of the old victim mindset responses and attitudes decided to reimmerse themselves. I caught myself becaming frustrated, confused, and the old shame on you for telling anyone that you were going before you were absolutely sure that you that you could...and a whole lot of other "self-judgment" phrases...attempted to revisit my vocabulary once again. Guess what? After taking a little bit of time to go within and find the blessings in this whole perceived mess...and choosing to be grateful for the situation...I held my head high, even laughed at myself in a kind and gentle way (humor is such an incredible healing tool), and stated out loud: "Everything happens for a reason...and it's all in Divine order! I will not judge you, Lori!" I went on to state that "...it's all just another lesson in life that I can put into practice if and when in the future, a similar situation arises." Do ya know what? This new way of living my life... a life without self-defeating words like shame, blame, guilt, and mistakes...rocks! I am actually enjoying learning the fine art of being flexible!
I talk about adding logic back into your decision making process in my book. And, after adding a whole lot more logic and compassion into this situation...I decided to accept the reality and logic of "what is right in front of me," and accepted that this was all a part of my highest good. I chose NOT to be a victim to my circumstances. I looked at all of the "positives" for staying in Minnesota right now...and promptly made a call and accepted a part time job offer here in Minnesota; working for an airline called "Sun Country Airlines."
Next, I consciously chose to embrace the gift of being offered this job in the firstplace... and the freedom that working for this airline will give me because of the flying benefits offered with this position. California, here I come afterall! And, I paused and reflected on how much I enjoyed working in that position in the past (I've worked for this airline twice before) and the wonderful oppportunities that it would bring me for traveling. As a Speaker/Author I'd be able to fly for free. Ya gotta love it!
No, I may not be living in Sunny California this winter, but I do have a world full of people, things, and health to be grateful for here in Minnesota! How about you? Will YOU join me in the fine practice of finding the good in all things?
I'd like to challenge you today, to think of a few things to be grateful for? State them out loud and/or write them down. I am sure that if you choose to, you can find the gifts and lessons in every single life experience, just like me!
I am sure glad that I said goodbye to the would-a, should-a, could-a's in my life. How about you? It’s a remarkable journey…in the victor mindset! Do you want to join me?
'Living, loving, and learning right along side each of you...and darned happy to be!
Peace and love,
Lori
P.S. Sometimes on the way to a dream...
... you get lost, and find a better one!
